I decided to write this post in real conditions both @home and @work, meaning:
- @home: I have both my young children with me playing, crying and fooling around. I still have to prepare dinner, give them the bath and make them dine.
- @work: I wrote the 2nd part of this post between two meetings
In between all these… when do I have time to breathe??? I bet this situation must be quite familiar for you, WOmums, right? J
Breathing is a quite complex process useful not only on a physiological level but also very linked t our emotions and feelings. When we feel stressed or aggressed we often feel it right away on our respiration.
This is why breathing with full consciousness is vital. Even though we all “know” how to breathe from birth, it can take a lifetime to breathe consciously.
Or, being able to create a breathing bubble – even for one or two minutes – during which you only focus on your breathing – is a great way to resource yourself even in a hectic environment.
And the more you can do this “on the spot” the better it is as you can manage to have several “breathing bubbles” a day. Warning! I’m NOT tallking about meditation but about breathing exercises (inspired from Ayurveda).
When I first started to do this I wasn’t yet a WOmum. My husband had bought me this book about the Art of breathing and I decided that, as I am not very fond of meditation, I’ll just use some of the breathing exercices that seemed useful to me during my day.
When I’m with my kids, my two favorite exercises are :
- The “Closing”: this is a very relaxing exercise as it is about “shutting all the gates”: Close your eyes, and your mouth, cover your ears with your hands and hold your breathing from 10 to 30 seconds.
When I feel overwhelmed with my kids’ demands and all the home work I do this exercises 3 to 5 times. It only takes a minute but I have the impression to teleport myself far away.
- The Alternate breathing: this is a “cooling” exercise. You take a deep breath and shut one narine with your finger. You expire in this position and then you change the narine and the hand an to the same on the other side.
As my temper is quite choleric, I do this exercise when I feel that I’m too angry not to burst out. When done quite slowly (10 to 20 seconds / expiration) it calms me down very quickly.
These are two of my tips of staying calm even when the talking and yelling around me never seems to stop.
What I like about them is that when I hold my breath or I breathe very slowly, this really makes me aware of the fact that even 10 seconds can be a very long time. So 1 minute of conscious breathing seems like an entire age.